relationship well-being Archives - Prestwich Holistic Centre

29 March 20223 July 2022Mindfulness Meditation, Stress Management

Do You Worry? Try This!

Do You Worry? Try This! We have mentioned before in these 1-minute emotional well-being snippets that your mind is not always your friend! For example, many of us may think in the following ways: ‘what-if’ type worries, worst-case scenario thoughts, self-critical thoughts, ruminating & dwelling on the past etc. This is what most minds do which can lead to feeling irritable and tense, often even experiencing anxiety or sometimes panic attacks. In order to manage the mind in as helpful a way as possible, try the following suggestions: Accept whatever you may be thinking or feeling. There is tremendous power and decrease in anxiety when embracing the state of acceptance. Read More

28 March 20223 July 2022Counselling, Couple Therapy

Is There More?

Is There More? As mentioned previously, listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely. A great question to ask your partner or spouse when you are listening, is ‘Is there more?’…and of course to really mean it! A very simple three-word question that shows you are interested and happy to listen to whatever else your other half would like to share. A suggestion when listening… Try listening with an open heart Try listening without judgement Try listening without planning your response Try listening to completely understand the other Try asking ‘Is there more?’ when the other person has finished speaking Try it out with the people in Read More

17 March 20223 July 2022Counselling, Couple Therapy

You are Living with an Iceberg

You are Living with an Iceberg Your spouse or partner is an iceberg! This does not mean that they are cold and unfeeling! Rather it refers to the fact that just as you only see 1/10th of an iceberg above the water, so too when looking at another human being, you only see the surface level. Just like there is so much more to an iceberg than what you can see with your eye, so too, there is so much depth and more than meets the eye when interacting with others. Lessons we can apply from an iceberg to our partner: Read More

14 March 202211 March 2022Couple Therapy, Mindfulness Meditation

The Story I Tell Myself

The Story I Tell Myself “He obviously does not care about me because if he did then he would contact me more often during the day”. This, or something similar, is a common frustration I may hear in my therapy office when working with a couple. At this point, I may pause the couple and invite the one sharing to rephrase that sentence starting with, ‘The story I tell myself is that…he obviously does not care about me…etc’. It may be true that he does not care or it may not be true at all or perhaps partly true. I invite couples to be Read More