Tag: listening

Couple Therapy

How to Talk So You Will be Heard

How to Talk so you will be Heard - two children talking

  In the last 1-minute Relationship Snippet, we mentioned that listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely. Equally as important as good listening is how you speak and what you say.  The following are some suggestions when talking… Try sharing without any shaming blaming or criticising. Try sharing using ‘I’ language rather than ‘you’ e.g. ‘I feel close to you when…’ Try sharing without generalisations such as ‘you always’ or ‘you never’. Try sharing as many appreciations as possible especially before sharing any frustrations Try keeping any frustrations short and sweet, being mindful that it is challenging to listen. Try appreciating your partner after they listen to you. Try Read More

Counselling, Mindfulness Meditation

This is Real Listening!

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It is real work to be a good listener. Most of us don’t know what true deep listening is about. It’s called Generative Listening. Just knowing what Generative Listening can give you a new perspective about what is possible in your life and relationships. There are Four Levels of Listening:   Level 1: Habitual Listening where we are unable to hear anything that doesn’t agree with what we already think. We are trapped inside the world of our preconceived notions. Sometimes even on an unconscious level, we project the filter of our existing judgments.   Level 2: Factual listening is based on observing the world around us. It is receiving information Read More