Tag: healthy relationships

Counselling, Couple Therapy

Is There More?

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Is There More? As mentioned previously, listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely. A great question to ask your partner or spouse when you are listening, is ‘Is there more?’…and of course to really mean it! A very simple three-word question that shows you are interested and happy to listen to whatever else your other half would like to share. A suggestion when listening… Try listening with an open heart Try listening without judgement Try listening without planning your response Try listening to completely understand the other Try asking ‘Is there more?’ when the other person has finished speaking Try it out with the people in Read More

Counselling, Couple Therapy

Detox Your Relationship – The Zero Negativity Challenge

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Detox Your Relationship – The Zero Negativity Challenge As you probably know, negativity is corrosive to any relationship.   Negativity is any transaction your partner experiences as a ‘put down’.   If they say it was negative, then trust that for whatever reason it was negative! Don’t try and explain your actions but listen to what their experience is.   Examples of negativity include: tone of voice, an eye roll, silence, criticism, shame, blame, deflection, disempowering, accusations, and contempt.   Negativity is any interaction that is experienced as devaluing or negating.   Achieving and maintaining a ‘zero negativity state’ is essential in a Conscious Couple Relationship. Read More