Tag: Couple Therapy

Counselling, Couple Therapy

You are Living with an Iceberg

You are Living with an Iceberg - an image of an iceberg

    You are Living with an Iceberg Your spouse or partner is an iceberg! This does not mean that they are cold and unfeeling! Rather it refers to the fact that just as you only see 1/10th of an iceberg above the water, so too when looking at another human being, you only see the surface level. Just like there is so much more to an iceberg than what you can see with your eye, so too, there is so much depth and more than meets the eye when interacting with others. Lessons we can apply from an iceberg to our partner: Read More

Counselling, Couple Therapy

Are you a Tiger or a Tortoise!

Couple Arguing

Are you a Tiger or a Tortoise!   In most couple relationships, there is often a tiger and a tortoise! Very rarely do I come across two tortoises but on occasion, there may be two tigers.   The partner who is ‘tiger-like’ tends to be the louder, noisier one who will get angry, shout, scream, nag, cling and blame when feeling hurt or upset. The partner who is more ‘tortoise-like’ tends to withdraw, go quiet, avoid talking and generally retreat when feeling hurt, upset or angry.   Sound familiar!?   When I explain about the tiger and tortoise this is normally received with smiles and knowing Read More

Healthy Living

Your Relationship Vision

Relationship Vision shared by couple running in field

The start of a New Year is a great opportunity to take some time with your spouse or partner to think about your ideal Relationship Vision. If you could wave that magic wand then how would you like your relationship to look…how are you: appreciating each other communicating spending time together having fun listening to each other sharing, validating showing empathy appreciating each other’s differences being affectionate, etc. What is the couple’s vision of an ideal deeply satisfying loving relationship? A shared relationship vision gives a sense of where the couple shares common ground. It can also be a way Read More